Wednesday, August 05, 2009
Adding a new member into your family, whether 2 days old or 4 years old, and evidence of growing pains will creep up here and there. The pains might be like mine: I had been doing pretty well with the growing pains of turning into a Mother of 4, only feeling stretched here and there, until it all culminated yesterday, but I'll share that in another post. Or the pains might be like Paloma, which is one long, continuous growing pain that has not yet ebbed.
The past two weeks have been very trying with and for Paloma. While Miles is very nice to her, and they actually play quite well together, it is still a huge adjustment for Miss Po, who was quite content with her I'm-the-Diva-pre-Miles lifestyle. Lots of whining, crying, tantruming and insane requests have left both her and I exhausted.
This morning, just now, she whined/complained/cried to me that she has an eyeball in her eye!
The utter ridiculousness of her statement made my heart feel a sting of pain as I felt tears well in my own eyes. I wish I could explain to her that this growing pain will pass, and she'll soon find her place and happiness in our big crazy family, but how do you explain that to a 3 year old?
My dear friend Becky's mother was a very, very wise woman and mother of 8. She once told Becky that when your children are being very trying and you don't know what to do, do the exact opposite of what you feel. Admittedly, today I kind of feel like setting out cereal, milk, bread and peanut butter on the table and crawling back under the covers.
So, instead, today I'm just going to hold her and love on her and stay glued to her side, now matter what whines, demands or requests are thrown my way. Things will get better and easier. This too shall pass, baby girl. I promise.