I have a situation with my Atticus that has me stumped.
Atticus is a great boy. Happy, energetic, imaginative. He loves to have school, to play, to be busy. An easy kid. Which makes this issue all the more confusing for me, since it isn't something that he displays at any other time in his days.
Atticus often becomes quite frustrated in school, and that frustration inevitably leads to tears. In violin, he cries when he is working intensely on a song and can't get his fingers to remember their placements. In math, it is when he doesn't understand a concept. In handwriting, he'll cry when he gets frustrated at how his capital 'S' turns out, or when he writes a capital 'E' backwards for the second time that day.
The frustration creeps in, his face turns really red and he begins to cry. Which in turn makes him more frustrated.
If I suggest that he just take a break, he becomes more upset because he doesn't want to take a break. He wants to master whatever it is he is trying to do.
I admire his doggedness. But I have NO idea how to best help him work through the frustration.
I don't show any anger or frustration with him. I usually try to cheer him through in a positive or upbeat voice.
One of his favorite stories is how King Robert Bruce of Scotland was defeated 6 times by the English. With his army scattered, his countrymen downtrodden, he had to hide himself in a garden shed in the woods. There he saw a spider try 6 times to throw a thread from beam to beam with no success. On the 7th try, the spider succeeded, which then convinced King Bruce to try yet again. And on his 7th try, he kicked the English down the block, back to England.
I always tell Atticus, "Do it for King Bruce!" or something silly like that.
Half the time, I get a laugh and he's able to go on. The other half, he still cries. And it seems to bear no effect on helping him handle his next period of frustration.
So what do I do? If anyone has any advice or suggestions, I would LOVE to hear from you. Many thanks!
(For a bit of background for those new to my blog, Atticus is 6 years old and we home school.)